What Makes You Happy?

A day of learning is a day of earning. Yes, indeed this statement holds a profound sense that has a great significance in one's life. Learning when meets consequences become an experience that's, as you all know, the unmatched mentor which is beyond getting replaced by even the best tutor. Experience, be it bad or good, has markedly immense impact on its bearer. It preaches a lot.

A person feels pity feeds a destitute and someone, on the contrary finds happiness in snatching off the bread, sufficient to eliminate the deadly hunger, from a beggar's hand. This is intended to facilitate the understanding of selfishness of a human being that seeks nothing but his happiness. Well, who does a thing that leads him to be unhappy? Possibly such a doer is mentally ill or viciously addicted to pain and sorrow. Well, what I want to lay emphasis on is that we do what we find happiness and satisfaction in. This is a bare presentation of selfishness that is probably inherent in all living specie on this earth. A teacher impart knowledge as it makes him happy, a social worker revamps the society in a way he wants everything to be set up for betterment, a politician makes himself happy by gaining over power; sometimes forgetting the purpose behind the power, a robber robs, a rapist rapes to vent out his uncontrollable wrongly channelized sexual drive. All the performers can be seen as character of drama who wants to outwit other one by gaining over happiness. Probably, they forget that happiness dwell within that demands the capability to discover and defeat his/her own noisy mind. Some repent and some rejoice after having performed his deed.

I would like to mention an incident while I was in overcrowded bus. It was all packed. People were raising their heads to breathe, probably everybody had become two inch taller :). After a while a girl with her guardian boarded the bus. She looked scared; she was palpitating and was behaving as if she was going to be hunted soon. She was mentally retarded. She looked sweet. Yes, she was beautiful. A gentleman offered her his seat. I was delighted. I was just standing in front of her. A feeling prevailed my heart strongly, I just wanted to hug her and cure her anyhow. At the very next moment, I saw a woman handing over her luggage to that child. I swallowed hard as I was not able to take that luggage off her lap. I flew in rage but thought that everything what happens that happens for good. I just observed the love that was biased in the lady who handed over her heavy luggage to that retarded girl, who couldn't even sit well. That lady had her own child who enjoyed the biased love. If love is profound then how it becomes biased, is it a true love, or what it is then....?

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Love or fear?

When you start loving someone a sense of profound feeling prevails in your conscience. The feeling of love which may be with living or non-living thing has, probably, lots of positive effects that overturn the negativity. However, with a great happiness love carries with it an acute fear. The fear is of loosing the beloved. The fear obscures the mirth that is imparted by LOVE. Fear, but gets breed on the ground of lack of reliability and owing to existence of insecurity in a relationship.

When someone gets struck by any virtual but intense set of emotions, no
matter for a small duration, he feels alone and seeks peace having a fact in mind that even the most intense feelings are prone to taper off in due course... The best feature possibly that the human brain possess is forgetfulness. Many mishaps, mental distractions and accidents take place now and then, if we were to keep everything in mind then perhaps we would have been shedding off our tears until we were dead. I mentioned that fear always companies LOVE, but if it’s so then should we always give way to fear, Should love be obscured each time? Perhaps, the answer would possibly be “NO”..! If love is real and true then fear and other negative emotions can’t take over it.

If some person tells that , “ I can’t live without you..”. Is this really true, can a person die if he doesn’t get someone to live with. I say, if this happen then may be the person is diseased. A great person told that a man is the product of his thinking. One becomes the way he thinks. A innocent child who needs toys to play, mother’s compassion and good preaching can be molded in such a way that he tends to ignore the things what he actually needs most. They become Terrorists if they feed on fear, their thinking is given an evil shape.

Love, Fear, Anger, jealousy etc are all the outcomes of thinking and situation. LOVE is quite elusive where negative emotions are quite prominent and easily sneak up on any body who proves himself to be weak…

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LOVE or INFATUATION

You meet HIM/HER. You know what I mean, THE ONE.You have been waiting for the person who made your heart pound, made the stars bright, and taken over all reasonable thought processes with ideas of making love on every beach from here to Tahiti.You have a weird expression on your face, food suddenly seems like a mere inconvenience and sleep is just something you used to do. Your friends tease you about being in love. Your mother WARNS you about being in love.

Love is a dynamic process, which means that there is a relationship that flexes, changes and grows as people mature, experience happens upon them, priorities and dreams are built and goals are met. Love brings out the best in people as individuals. The relationship between them becomes the way they define their lives. As jobs, careers, and family concerns change, people are able to work as a team to be understanding and flexible so the relationship (their lives) will flourish.


What if it is infatuation? That's when you think of someone all the time, you go out of your way to be around him/her, and you begin to center your priorities around him/her as well.You daydream about him/her. There is a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.It has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction.Most people are infatuated with their love partners to a certain degree.

What is the difference between love and infatuation? The first difference is that infatuation is short lived. It disappears soon.While infatuation limits your feelings to attraction, love will make you grow in every way and it brings a feeling of comfort when you think of the other person and that feeling will make you stronger as it increases your confidence in yourself to be the person that you want to be.


Maybe infatuation is brain based, and love is heart based?


True love is considered to last a lifetime while infatuation is considered to last only for a few weeks or at the most few months. This difference may actually not be true because a person marries another because of the love shared between them, but after a few years of marriage, they break up because they find that they do not love each other. This does not make their relationship into an infatuation. This is because there was love shared between them, but it is just that the love has soured.

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Who Is The Best ?

Sometimes I feel that why man is called the best creature of world?

what is really the criteria to be best?

what does one have to have to be best?

Well, today the human being has progressed in all fields. Every comfort which one could have just imagined is at arms length to some people in today’s era. It sounds so great, does it not? If there is so much of comfort all over then why is it concentrated to some people. Why there is no Equilibrium? ….

Doesn’t the scenario of a destitute, wandering cloth-less, shabby, and Hungry look sets one’s heart to rapid palpitation. Is it not a raw story of misery in the era of comfort and achievement? A small helpless and alone child being pressurized by the social calamity when stands demanding a piece of bread makes one feel rather to echo a question within —-why??


Synchronization is the law of nature. Perhaps the man of this era have forgotten and made the mother nature suffer even. Deforestation is the burning instance to back my logic up. When the human didn't even bother to break the synchronization within the nature to keep him alive then how can it be expected that a similar balance will prevail all around regarding poverty and monetary comfort.

To cite an example I would like to state a incident which one have might have beheld now and then—– a helpless, hungry, thirsty, half naked, itching the scars of poverty standing in front of a affluent, happy and a rich guy expecting something from him, gets a harsh and hard arrogance. Had that man offered him some help then it would have been a better and appreciable job.

But the question is that if he would have helped that destitute then would it have helped. The answer is no. But if everyone thinks so then the world will become a exhibition of arrogance towards the needies……hah!!!!! So, what one can do to eradicate this show?

Can we say that Knowledge is a two edged sword? Yes we can say it. “Less knowledge is dangerous thing”…I have something to say about it. Do more knowledge imparts a positive consequence. What is Nuclear Bomb product of, it got its existence on the ground of wisdom and knowledge. What rubbish?? What a use of wisdom?? I wonder. Is destruction an effect of knowledge….I deal it in this way, what do you think. It may be that you have a different Ideas, but I am not wrong I know it.

HUMAN BEING IS THE BEST CREATURE OF UNIVERSE……!! is it??

Imported from my blog "Musing of a Bleeding Heart"

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Love Yourself

Today while thinking a lot in the midnight I halted on a point that echoed about LOVE. I just halted at a question that probably banged my mind. Love is a form of emotion that is most stable and divine of all form of positive stream of emotions. It is a boon that is probably behind every relationships. The question that I thought to ask you all is that, who do you love most?

Whose face appears as a answer to this question? Is it your husband or wife, a girl friend or a boyfriend? Is it your daughter, mother or father, son, daughter or the beloved pet? whom do you think that you love most?

Regardless of the face that appears to you , the fact is that love is that form of emotion that engraves a sense of responsibility, duty and devotion towards your loved one. You must have heard about Yin and the Yang. To make you all understand about Yin and yang I would like to import an explanation of Yin and Yan.

Are you the Beloved or the Lover, the Yin or the Yang in your relationship? If you do not know, think about the first time you met your partner.

Who spoke or wrote to the other first? Whoever takes action first is the Lover, the Yang, the predominantly masculine energy who takes the leadership role in the relationship. Then, reflect who waited to be noticed or invited first before responding. This person is the Beloved, the Yin, the predominantly feminine energy who takes the supportive role in the relationship. However, this is only true if you have been true to yourself when you met.

Love in itself is a great responsibility. Love is a purposeful work that attracts positive actions like being patient, supportive, cooperative, understanding and reliable. If love is devoid of these qualities then it is nothing more than a liability. Predominantly, there lies a fact that to be loved, to spread love and get a proper respect you must learn to love yourself first. Can you imagine a plant growing on a infertile soil, I hope the answer that will flash in your mind is a big "NO". Same as that, how can a person be loved if he doesn't love himself? So, the slogan is that love yourself more than anyone and anything else. Believe me, it is not an act of being self-conceited, it is but making yourself capable of doing what you want to.

Well, there is a question that may remain unrequited. The question is simple that may pop up in anyone's mind. What if a person is self conceited, impatient, mean or cunning? Can't a person of this sort realize what love is? Well, the answer is no. Love doesn't allow negative emotions, however, if given time, well worked upon and having an attitude of welcoming changes may help someone to gain the unmatchable feel of being loved.

Once we have loved ourselves most, despised negative emotions like revenge, anger, lust and fear we can share the self-emitting aura of love among people who need it. When a cup is full of water up to its brim, then any further water poured to it spills out. Same as this when our heart is full of love we can share and spread the love that probably generates subsequently. Lust is a natural assassin of love. I would suggest to carefully forbid Lust from interfering with love.

The very next time when some one asks you the question: Whom do you love most?
Then you must see your own smiling face as an answer to this question

Anand

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Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

I always loved to listen to this song as a young teacher in Kamloops. It was a favorite and still is. But. To the question: Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

Because the Now may be all I have.

Living in the past stagnates us. We cannot live in the past as if the things that have already happened will happen over and over. Why revisit all the hurts and deceptions? Why revisit the bad times? Then again, we have had good times too. So, why not revisit them? It is good to remember them, but we cannot relive them. Embrace the good memories and enjoy the good feelings they bring back. But don't live there either.

Just think about the things happening in our lives now. So much excitement, so much progress. If we stay in the past, then what are we gaining from Now? Nothing. There is so much out there to experience, make new memories with and have a wonderful time living and learning.

So what's wrong with living in the future? Apart from the fact that if it has not yet happened, it may never happen. We can look ahead to the future. I am not saying that we cannot have one. Far from it! We will all have a future. What it will be we will know when it becomes the Now! Sure, we make plans. Sure, we decide what we want from life and make all sorts of decisions on how we are getting there. Now is when we are making all these choices and decisions. Not in the Future. We live Now. We have a vision for our future. We make plans on how to get there. We make the decisions and choices Now that will get us to our future. Live in the Now with vision. Live in the Now with enjoyment. Live in the Now for life!

The deeper reason for me is actually somewhat traumatic. My family doctor confirmed that I have early onset dementia. It is a result of the same medical issue that has been the cause behind my heart troubles too. My vein and artery walls are weak. They collapse and sometimes stick shut. When that happens around my heart, I get angina pain or a heart attack. When that happens in my brain, I lose a little bit of myself. That is what is making it so much more important to live in the NOW.

I am missing some memories. Nothing really important as far as I can remember. But I know the others might go sometime too. There is no good reason to remain living in my past watching the memories maybe disappear, maybe change as the old pathways in my brain start to shut down.

I would rather enjoy what is left of my time here in this life. So, ... I live in the Now. Making new pathways in my brain by learning new things. Making new memories in different sections of my brain. Using creativity skills that I did not know I had to beautify my surroundings. Not giving in to living in the past or trying to live in a future that is not yet here. I will enjoy my grandchildren as much as possible Now. I am taking lots of pictures for NOW. I am not dwelling on what could happen tomorrow. Living in the NOW makes life fun again. I love life in the Now. Enjoy it with me.

When you are troubled, that is when you really need your friends and family. I have mine. It amazes me more everyday how my friends accept me today for who I am Now. Not who I was 10 years ago. Not who I might be 10 years into my future. NOW.

Living and loving life

Elouise

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What is Love?

So. The questions we all ask ourselves. What is Love? How do we know it is Love? will Love live forever? ...

No one person can answer all of those. But if we look within, we find what Love is for us. I have been thinking on this topic for a while now. How can one come to grips with it all? There are so many facets; it is like a very large diamond. Or maybe a million smaller ones. Where do I start?

I start with the love I married over 40 years ago. That was special at the start. It has changed over the years, but not by becoming bad, just by becoming different. I would not trade those 40 years for anything else. I have 3 beautiful children because of that love. I have 2 grandchildren (so far) because of that precious love. I am settled in that love. I am in love with love.

Soulmates. Recently I met a soulmate. That Love is different. It has a passion unlike any other I have ever felt. It has intertwinings of thoughts that do not exist anywhere else. I don't know how many soulmates we can find in this vast world of ours, but, for me, one great soul mate is all I need. We fulfil each other in ways no one else can. We understand each others feelings with a depth no one else has. We understand our moods, our thoughts in harmony. We can feel what each other is feeling without even being in the same country. There are no bounds. Everyone needs a soulmate. I am extremely happy that I found mine.

Then there is Love we, as parents, have for our children. We find we want to protect them, help them to avoid the same pitfalls of life that we have ourselves fallen into. We want them to be happier than we were through all the different stages of our lives. We want only the best for them. We want to protect them. We want to stop anyone else from hurting them. We want to fight all their battles to save them from harm. We know, deep down, that we cannot do it all for them. We have to allow them to try, to get hurt, to laugh, to meet people, to attempt their own lives. They have to learn to live, to love and to be happy on their own. We can always be there when they need us. But above all else, Love can not be used to smother! That is the most important lesson that parents can learn. And the hardest too.

Then we have special friends. Yes, I love many people, in many different ways. My special friends are the ones that I can lean on. They are the ones I can say anything to without fear of being ridiculed. They are not afraid to hurt my feelings by telling me the truth. But they know how to cushion it so I can learn from what they say. They will not order me to do things I feel are not right. They will offer great suggestions when I reach a crossroads and don't know where to turn. They are the ones I can laugh with and cry with. They hold me up when I can't, but they let me down gently when it is time to go on my own. They are my greatest support.

So. Are there any more kinds of Love? Yes. Each friend we meet, each person we wrong, everyone who touches our lives we love in some way. It does not always feel like love, but if we are taking the time to interact with them, then there is a type of love there. We all have within ourselves the ability to love. It is ours to use and to spread. We have a need to use this love. The more we do so, the better our lives get. I am not saying bad things don't happen. What I am saying is when bad things happen the Love of our families, our special friends, even our acquaintances helps us to overcome.

To me, Love is a many faceted jewel. One that will shine on forever, no matter what happens. Full of different colours! Lights up our lives and makes it more lovable. Where would we be without love? I don't know. And I don't want to find out.

Let the rainbows shine on forever!

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Friendship : A Great Relationship

sometimes you get more than what you really expect and sometimes it happens that you don't get what you deserve. Why it so happens? Is it a law that is proved maximum time in one's life. Every situation in life, good or bad, has its own blessings. Sometimes blessings are in disguise that our innocent heart fail to recognize. Once upon a time a person told me that happiness and grief are a matter of time. If it's so then should we wait for the time to arrive expecting a bucketful of treasure or should we replace expectations with preference? I throw this question to you all.

I have crossed a great time in life. I have gathered experiences that perhaps is centralized to a common base of misery. I wonder because I seem to be doing mastery in being a misery-king. I have come to know that sometimes the return of a blow is given by actions that can overpower it. yes, actions are louder...


Love is the most confident, stable and consistent form of human emotion if it's in its real form. Love is that impulse that encourages sacrifice, the greatest act a human can perform. The emotion that doesn't beget sacrifice is surely not a LOVE but an obsession or a manacle that binds one to groan in the dust of misery. LUST is the assassin of LOVE that infuses the negative emotions sufficient to pollute the chastity of love. There runs a famous line--"Forgive to forget " it is really self explanatory. But, what I think is that one must really forgive himself to forget the things that he is naturally deprived of. Love really makes a lover miss himself more than his/her beloved one when they are apart. The time when they are together the happiness is nothing but a perfect bliss which prevails unnoticed. LOVE is one of the integral aspect of emotions that refills one with positivity.

LOVE has its forms that is really marvellous. LOVE exists between a couple who are tied together with a divine bond, LOVE exists between all form of relationship that breeds happiness, satisfaction and cooperation. Among all the form of relation in which LOVE play its important role, the relationship of friendship bears the most credible bond. The relationship of friendship is versatile and the most noble one. It's really not easy to define friendship. A friend is that person who knows everything about his friend and still likes him or her. A friend is one who scolds you, teaches you, cares for you and LOVE you. I value my friends more than any one I do. A good friend calls you up when he/she gets to know that your one drop of tear has been spilled. A drop of tear that gets spilled from your eyes has great importance if its value is understood otherwise it's nothing but salty water. Yes, I have a friend who cares for me, is concerned about me and even scold me. I came to know about that person when I faced a blow of time again. I think that I wouldn't have got that person as my friend if I had not faced the bad situation. It's proved that even a bad situation can be a boon but in disguise. One is only required to have an eye that can identify good amongst bad. Good and Bad are like two sides of a coin that when tossed in air yields but one result. Friends are really fabulous.

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Reply to Entertainment.

I agree with the premise that entertainment can be used as a tool to impart knowledge, or propaganda. I wonder sometimes though if we humans have a tendency to read far too much into the twists and plots of a movie.

We watch a movie and then stop to think about the scenes and what they might mean. Like Anand did in his blog post. The post is a good one and makes the movie seem much more important than it was set up to be. While I mostly agree with the points brought up, I have some difficulty with a couple of them.

Never try to be successful is one I have difficulty with. You failed to define success. I am sure we could come up with several definitions of success. For example, would you classify success as having the largest house in town?, Or could it be the bank account with the most money?, Or, could it be as simple as having helped the most people in some way?. Or is it just having enough to live the kind of life you want? For me, success can be defined as accomplishing something that is important to me. Like the book I am writing detailing my family tree. When that project is complete, then I will be successful. It won't make me famous, it won't make me rich, it won't even affect more than a few hundred people, but it will be the largest project that I have completed.

Anand, you say strive for excellence and success will follow. I am striving for a very excellent book. My concern is that if I keep trying for perfection, the book may never be completed! In that case, I would not consider myself successful at all.

I like to live life to the fullest. Although I am fearful of new experiences and new things, I do not avoid them, but carry on searching for more knowledge. I love to learn. I consider myself to be a life long learner. That will only change when I leave this life. This week I am learning about enlightenment. I am adding exercise to my daily routine to improve my health. I am seeking new ideas all the time for improving my health. Some work, some don't. It is part of your life experience to learn what you can and apply the knowledge in a way that helps not only you, but others around you too. Selfishness is not an option.

I have limited faith in the leadership of industry. Money is what makes industry work. I prefer to barter when I can and share. I send my homemade jams out and receive a lot of love and advice back. I love to make the jams and jellies. I make way more than my family can eat, but I don't sell them. I trade them. I get vegetables, meals, other fruits to make more with, companionship, treats, rides to places I need to go, advice, love and appreciation.

I love life. I live to love. I live to be happy by doing what I love to do. Life is really wonderful.

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We are here for a reason.

Having a happy life is easier than you might think. I have made the decision after listening to the Dali Lama that it is up to me to have a happy life. So How do I do that? I have been thinking on it and trying some new things to see what works.

First, I discussed this with my family. All of them agreed that looking outside myself for happiness is not the way to go. Happiness is always inside you. You can be in very happy situations and surrounded by very happy people and still not feel happy within yourself. Only you can change what you feel inside yourself.

Secondly, I spoke with my friends about this. For the past few weeks, the topic has come up in many conversations. The final conclusion does not change though. We have all come to an agreement. Happiness is something you can control. How is up to each person and situation, but it is under your own control. Where do I go from here?

I have been looking at my own thought patterns. What thoughts come to my mind and how I treat them. Upon realizing that not all my thoughts are positive in outlook, actually many are quite negative, it has become important to me and my happiness to learn to control them. It is much more difficult that I expected. I suppose the habits of 62 years of life on this earth in this lifetime has ingrained some negative ideas firmly enough to make them difficult to remove. Now comes the work.

Fortunately, I have some great friends who are helping me to learn this. I have found great resources here for learning. Check out this site! The amount of knowledge to be found there is huge!

Wolfpac1

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Friends

Friends.

What are they?
Who are they?
How do you know you have a friend?

Everyone needs friends whether you realize it or not. One reason for this is that no one was meant to stand alone against the entire world. We are people who get further faster when we work together.

How can you tell if someone is a friend? First of all it is a comfort thing. If you have a friend, you feel comfortable with him or her. You can discuss any topic without embarrassment. You can tell him anything. He can tell you anything. Any criticism is delivered without judgement. Any advice is given without prejudice, without expectations and out of the goodness you feel towards that friend.

When something really terrible happens in your life, your true friends are there to support you. With their support, you gain strength you need to overcome obstacles. You can lean on them and they can lean on you when strength is needed.


I have a circle of such friends. Right now I am going through a difficult change in my life and really need them to lean on. Three, in particular, are very good for me now. My Swedish friend helps keep me grounded and cheers me up. My American friend is giving me a lot of things to think about, taking my mind off things I cannot change. My British friend is offering prayer and support in a large way. I know prayer works. I have an Indian friend who, although much younger than I, can offer great wisdom when we speak about the terrible things in our lives.

All of these friends are very special to me and I am so very fortunate to have met them. I would not change any one of them.

Coach Elouise
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