LOVE or INFATUATION
>> Saturday, April 3, 2010
You meet HIM/HER. You know what I mean, THE ONE.You have been waiting for the person who made your heart pound, made the stars bright, and taken over all reasonable thought processes with ideas of making love on every beach from here to Tahiti.You have a weird expression on your face, food suddenly seems like a mere inconvenience and sleep is just something you used to do. Your friends tease you about being in love. Your mother WARNS you about being in love.
Love is a dynamic process, which means that there is a relationship that flexes, changes and grows as people mature, experience happens upon them, priorities and dreams are built and goals are met. Love brings out the best in people as individuals. The relationship between them becomes the way they define their lives. As jobs, careers, and family concerns change, people are able to work as a team to be understanding and flexible so the relationship (their lives) will flourish.
What if it is infatuation? That's when you think of someone all the time, you go out of your way to be around him/her, and you begin to center your priorities around him/her as well.You daydream about him/her. There is a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.It has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.
have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction.Most people are infatuated with their love partners to a certain degree.
What is the difference between love and infatuation? The first difference is that infatuation is short lived. It disappears soon.While infatuation limits your feelings to attraction, love will make you grow in every way and it brings a feeling of comfort when you think of the other person and that feeling will make you stronger as it increases your confidence in yourself to be the person that you want to be.
Maybe infatuation is brain based, and love is heart based?
True love is considered to last a lifetime while infatuation is considered to last only for a few weeks or at the most few months. This difference may actually not be true because a person marries another because of the love shared between them, but after a few years of marriage, they break up because they find that they do not love each other. This does not make their relationship into an infatuation. This is because there was love shared between them, but it is just that the love has soured.
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2 comments:
Great examples. We have been married for over 40 years. We are still in love, but the nature of that love has changed from intense physical attraction to one of knowing each others thoughts, building a team approach to the world, and knowing how each of us will react to a different situation.
Love for us started as an infatuation. but it grew very quickly beyond that. We knew within 2 weeks that we were meant to be together. We grew, we raised our 3 children, we are helping those kids raise their own kids. We have had many battles, not with each other, but with those who wanted to ruin us. We have survived many bad events. We have had many more great and wonderful events. We have become as one together. That is love.
You have lucidly explained the subtle difference between LOVE and INFATUATION. Infatuation is often misunderstood as Love by youth who lack experience and maturity that love demands. Love, which demands care, support, confidence, reliability, and understandability between the couples,is definite, stable and dominating emotion among other 7 cardinal emotions... Good work SHIV
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