Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

I always loved to listen to this song as a young teacher in Kamloops. It was a favorite and still is. But. To the question: Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

Because the Now may be all I have.

Living in the past stagnates us. We cannot live in the past as if the things that have already happened will happen over and over. Why revisit all the hurts and deceptions? Why revisit the bad times? Then again, we have had good times too. So, why not revisit them? It is good to remember them, but we cannot relive them. Embrace the good memories and enjoy the good feelings they bring back. But don't live there either.

Just think about the things happening in our lives now. So much excitement, so much progress. If we stay in the past, then what are we gaining from Now? Nothing. There is so much out there to experience, make new memories with and have a wonderful time living and learning.

So what's wrong with living in the future? Apart from the fact that if it has not yet happened, it may never happen. We can look ahead to the future. I am not saying that we cannot have one. Far from it! We will all have a future. What it will be we will know when it becomes the Now! Sure, we make plans. Sure, we decide what we want from life and make all sorts of decisions on how we are getting there. Now is when we are making all these choices and decisions. Not in the Future. We live Now. We have a vision for our future. We make plans on how to get there. We make the decisions and choices Now that will get us to our future. Live in the Now with vision. Live in the Now with enjoyment. Live in the Now for life!

The deeper reason for me is actually somewhat traumatic. My family doctor confirmed that I have early onset dementia. It is a result of the same medical issue that has been the cause behind my heart troubles too. My vein and artery walls are weak. They collapse and sometimes stick shut. When that happens around my heart, I get angina pain or a heart attack. When that happens in my brain, I lose a little bit of myself. That is what is making it so much more important to live in the NOW.

I am missing some memories. Nothing really important as far as I can remember. But I know the others might go sometime too. There is no good reason to remain living in my past watching the memories maybe disappear, maybe change as the old pathways in my brain start to shut down.

I would rather enjoy what is left of my time here in this life. So, ... I live in the Now. Making new pathways in my brain by learning new things. Making new memories in different sections of my brain. Using creativity skills that I did not know I had to beautify my surroundings. Not giving in to living in the past or trying to live in a future that is not yet here. I will enjoy my grandchildren as much as possible Now. I am taking lots of pictures for NOW. I am not dwelling on what could happen tomorrow. Living in the NOW makes life fun again. I love life in the Now. Enjoy it with me.

When you are troubled, that is when you really need your friends and family. I have mine. It amazes me more everyday how my friends accept me today for who I am Now. Not who I was 10 years ago. Not who I might be 10 years into my future. NOW.

Living and loving life

Elouise

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Friendship : A Great Relationship

sometimes you get more than what you really expect and sometimes it happens that you don't get what you deserve. Why it so happens? Is it a law that is proved maximum time in one's life. Every situation in life, good or bad, has its own blessings. Sometimes blessings are in disguise that our innocent heart fail to recognize. Once upon a time a person told me that happiness and grief are a matter of time. If it's so then should we wait for the time to arrive expecting a bucketful of treasure or should we replace expectations with preference? I throw this question to you all.

I have crossed a great time in life. I have gathered experiences that perhaps is centralized to a common base of misery. I wonder because I seem to be doing mastery in being a misery-king. I have come to know that sometimes the return of a blow is given by actions that can overpower it. yes, actions are louder...


Love is the most confident, stable and consistent form of human emotion if it's in its real form. Love is that impulse that encourages sacrifice, the greatest act a human can perform. The emotion that doesn't beget sacrifice is surely not a LOVE but an obsession or a manacle that binds one to groan in the dust of misery. LUST is the assassin of LOVE that infuses the negative emotions sufficient to pollute the chastity of love. There runs a famous line--"Forgive to forget " it is really self explanatory. But, what I think is that one must really forgive himself to forget the things that he is naturally deprived of. Love really makes a lover miss himself more than his/her beloved one when they are apart. The time when they are together the happiness is nothing but a perfect bliss which prevails unnoticed. LOVE is one of the integral aspect of emotions that refills one with positivity.

LOVE has its forms that is really marvellous. LOVE exists between a couple who are tied together with a divine bond, LOVE exists between all form of relationship that breeds happiness, satisfaction and cooperation. Among all the form of relation in which LOVE play its important role, the relationship of friendship bears the most credible bond. The relationship of friendship is versatile and the most noble one. It's really not easy to define friendship. A friend is that person who knows everything about his friend and still likes him or her. A friend is one who scolds you, teaches you, cares for you and LOVE you. I value my friends more than any one I do. A good friend calls you up when he/she gets to know that your one drop of tear has been spilled. A drop of tear that gets spilled from your eyes has great importance if its value is understood otherwise it's nothing but salty water. Yes, I have a friend who cares for me, is concerned about me and even scold me. I came to know about that person when I faced a blow of time again. I think that I wouldn't have got that person as my friend if I had not faced the bad situation. It's proved that even a bad situation can be a boon but in disguise. One is only required to have an eye that can identify good amongst bad. Good and Bad are like two sides of a coin that when tossed in air yields but one result. Friends are really fabulous.

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Life Shows Everything

Life shows everything. It shows love, hatred, happiness and despair. What makes us unhappy? Is it our action, is it one's thought , or is it the action of other makes one fall in the pool of despair? I say all mentioned causes cannot dare to pain you until you allow them to. But, the question still remain unrequited , what makes us unhappy?

But, why am I divulging the stuffs relating to happiness? Well, perhaps something is tiding in my mind causing a chaotic turmoil.

I learned from a Lady that there is great power in the words we say. The way one narrate a word defines his action and its consequence in turn. It really causes a effect- negative or positive. if an old man says "I am still sweet sixteen" then it may seem ridiculous to the listener but the real cream of the narrated line is enjoyed by the speaker, yes, there is a great power in words

Well, "Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our attitude" -- Dale Carnegie


It is well known fact that character cant be changed but attitude changes by the way one thinks and implements. So to be in the state one want to must have his attitude molded a sit is the entity which defines his mental state and his actions.

Well, to write further I would like to mention some lives once said by a great person I know, he said "God manifests in every atom of this universe and will whenever required change the course of things , so when you pray with a powerful concentration and connect with the cosmic vibration you can learn the secrets of universe and use them for the good of the mankind, also you can find answers to thousands of unanswered questions in your mind and heart, the result will be directly proportional to purity of intention in your heart and mind and the intensity of your quest to unravel this force which is beyond comprehension and explanation"

There is a magnetic radiation surrounding every person which is called Aura, and this Aura causes a positive & negative radiations spreading respective impacts.

To move further, I will mention that I have a friend. I don't have any idea about what she thinks of me, what she considers me or how she takes my feelings? But, on my part, she is the one who imparts me a positive energy which keeps me happy for the moment I am with her. "A friend in need is friend indeed" -- this is really proved by her. She assisted me at the time I wanted her help, she listened to me, she gave her effort and tried to make me as I was. I am really obliged to that person.

This is what makes a Friend special and fabulous

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Friends are Fabulous

Friends are fabulous people. This blog will delve into the many areas of friendship.

My best friends would do anything for me. If I need help, they are right there. If I am crying, they are right there to lend a shoulder. If I am lost, they will look for me and help me find myself again. If I am happy, they will rejoice with me too. I return the love as much as I can.

I have other friends with whom I am not so close. Those friends interact with me socially, but do not share my deepest thoughts and secrets. They are fun to be with. They can make me laugh or cry with their stories, feel good, feel bad, feel excited, feel sad.

Then there are the friends I have never met, yet there is a strong connection. There is a Swedish friend with whom I can share everything, as we understand each other extremely well. There is my American friend who seems to know when I need a laugh and sends it. There is my Australian friend who offers me support just when I am ready to quit. With these friends I have a deep connection that almost seems to come from another source. It is a deep and very meaningful connection. Even when not online for days, we have this connection. Almost like we can sense each other's presence in the world.


Then there are the people we meet everyday, the drug store pharmacist, the grocery clerk, the meter reader, and on and on. A different type of friendship again. Not so close, just a familiarity from seeing often.

Having different relationships with people is the gift that keeps on giving. It is the salt which keeps life interesting. It is the bread on which we feed.

I love making new friends and cultivating relationships with new people. I really love having the special friends who are always there when I need them. I especially love meeting new people every day. How do I do that?

I meet a lot of people on twitter. made a few very good friends and some very good business contacts too.


this is how I keep in touch with them all.
Skype: coach_elouise

I have tons of friends on Facebook, look for coachelouise

I can find old friends I have not seen for a while here:




Coach Elouise

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