LOVE or INFATUATION

You meet HIM/HER. You know what I mean, THE ONE.You have been waiting for the person who made your heart pound, made the stars bright, and taken over all reasonable thought processes with ideas of making love on every beach from here to Tahiti.You have a weird expression on your face, food suddenly seems like a mere inconvenience and sleep is just something you used to do. Your friends tease you about being in love. Your mother WARNS you about being in love.

Love is a dynamic process, which means that there is a relationship that flexes, changes and grows as people mature, experience happens upon them, priorities and dreams are built and goals are met. Love brings out the best in people as individuals. The relationship between them becomes the way they define their lives. As jobs, careers, and family concerns change, people are able to work as a team to be understanding and flexible so the relationship (their lives) will flourish.


What if it is infatuation? That's when you think of someone all the time, you go out of your way to be around him/her, and you begin to center your priorities around him/her as well.You daydream about him/her. There is a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.It has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction.Most people are infatuated with their love partners to a certain degree.

What is the difference between love and infatuation? The first difference is that infatuation is short lived. It disappears soon.While infatuation limits your feelings to attraction, love will make you grow in every way and it brings a feeling of comfort when you think of the other person and that feeling will make you stronger as it increases your confidence in yourself to be the person that you want to be.


Maybe infatuation is brain based, and love is heart based?


True love is considered to last a lifetime while infatuation is considered to last only for a few weeks or at the most few months. This difference may actually not be true because a person marries another because of the love shared between them, but after a few years of marriage, they break up because they find that they do not love each other. This does not make their relationship into an infatuation. This is because there was love shared between them, but it is just that the love has soured.

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Are we violent by nature?

The most dangerous and lethal killer on our planet is not the lion or tiger or the great shark but a weak and tiny creature known as man. History proves this, 1,50,000 people were killed and many more perished in order to conquer kalinga. 37 million people suffered death and injury during world war I and over 60 million were killed in second world war.

These genocides were carried out by humans, people like you and me. Man involves himself in mindless violence both on his own species as well as on other species. UN study has found out that nearly 20 million tons of fish are caught every year, 25% of this never reaches the market. It’s just dumped. This killing is faster than the breeding of fish which is ecocide.

This nature of humans is not prevalent in other species as they kill on need basis only. Every now and then we read about terrorist attacks, this is again an instance of mindless violence, terrorists are dedicated people who believe they are participants in a dynamic social or political process.

In most entertainment forms and in the actions of governments, there’s a streak of violence running through. One can see this even walking around the neighborhood, watching and listening to people, Violence – gross, subtle, physical, emotional and psychological – is everywhere. Victims and aggressors abound.

Before drawing any conclusion , I request all the members and readers of this blog to express their views.

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FORGIVE

We mostly think of forgiveness as something that we do when the person doing the wrong asks of US. Instead let us offer to forgive the person who has done wrong to us.

To not forgive them is like taking the poison suffering for what they did or didn't do to us and expecting THEM to die.

Forgiveness is a gift we give to our-self. It is not something we do to someone else. It's really that simple. Simply identify the situation where you need to forgive and ask yourself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that's it! All is forgiven.

Forgiving is allowing another person to be human for faults, mistakes or misdeeds.letting them know that there is no grudge, hard feelings or animosity for any wrongdoing.Forgiving is giving a sign that a person's explanation or acceptance of blame for a destructive, hurtful or painful act is fully accepted.Forgiving is the highest form of human behavior that can be shown to another person.



The Amish School Tragedy

On Monday morning, October 2, 2006, a gunman entered a one-room Amish school in Nickel Mines, Pennsylvania. In front of twenty-five horrified pupils, thirty-two-year-old Charles Roberts ordered the boys and the teacher to leave. After tying the legs of the ten remaining girls, Roberts prepared to shoot them execution with an automatic rifle and four hundred rounds of ammunition that he brought for the task. The oldest hostage, a thirteen-year-old, begged Roberts to “shoot me first and let the little ones go.” Refusing her offer, he opened fire on all of them, killing five and leaving the others critically wounded. He then shot himself as police stormed the building. His motivation? “I’m angry at God for taking my little daughter,” he told the children before the massacre.

The story captured the attention of broadcast and print media in the United States and around the world. By Tuesday morning some fifty television crews had clogged the small village of Nickel Mines, staying for five days until the killer and the killed were buried. The blood was barely dry on the schoolhouse floor when Amish parents brought words of forgiveness to the family of the one who had slain their children.

The outside world was incredulous that such forgiveness could be offered so quickly for such a heinous crime. Of the hundreds of media queries that the authors received about the shooting, questions about forgiveness rose to the top. Forgiveness, in fact, eclipsed the tragic story, trumping the violence and arresting the world’s attention.

Within a week of the murders, Amish forgiveness was a central theme in more than 2,400 news stories around the world. The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, Newsweek, NBC Nightly News, CBS Morning News, Larry King Live, Fox News, Oprah, and dozens of other media outlets heralded the forgiving Amish. From the Khaleej Times (United Arab Emirates) to Australian television, international media were opining on Amish forgiveness. Three weeks after the shooting, “Amish forgiveness” had appeared in 2,900 news stories worldwide and on 534,000 web sites.

Fresh from the funerals where they had buried their own children, grieving Amish families accounted for half of the seventy-five people who attended the killer’s burial. Roberts’ widow was deeply moved by their presence as Amish families greeted her and her three children. The forgiveness went beyond talk and graveside presence: the Amish also supported a fund for the shooter’s family.


CAN WE LEARN SOMETHING FROM THIS INCIDENT?

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Friendship : A Great Relationship

sometimes you get more than what you really expect and sometimes it happens that you don't get what you deserve. Why it so happens? Is it a law that is proved maximum time in one's life. Every situation in life, good or bad, has its own blessings. Sometimes blessings are in disguise that our innocent heart fail to recognize. Once upon a time a person told me that happiness and grief are a matter of time. If it's so then should we wait for the time to arrive expecting a bucketful of treasure or should we replace expectations with preference? I throw this question to you all.

I have crossed a great time in life. I have gathered experiences that perhaps is centralized to a common base of misery. I wonder because I seem to be doing mastery in being a misery-king. I have come to know that sometimes the return of a blow is given by actions that can overpower it. yes, actions are louder...


Love is the most confident, stable and consistent form of human emotion if it's in its real form. Love is that impulse that encourages sacrifice, the greatest act a human can perform. The emotion that doesn't beget sacrifice is surely not a LOVE but an obsession or a manacle that binds one to groan in the dust of misery. LUST is the assassin of LOVE that infuses the negative emotions sufficient to pollute the chastity of love. There runs a famous line--"Forgive to forget " it is really self explanatory. But, what I think is that one must really forgive himself to forget the things that he is naturally deprived of. Love really makes a lover miss himself more than his/her beloved one when they are apart. The time when they are together the happiness is nothing but a perfect bliss which prevails unnoticed. LOVE is one of the integral aspect of emotions that refills one with positivity.

LOVE has its forms that is really marvellous. LOVE exists between a couple who are tied together with a divine bond, LOVE exists between all form of relationship that breeds happiness, satisfaction and cooperation. Among all the form of relation in which LOVE play its important role, the relationship of friendship bears the most credible bond. The relationship of friendship is versatile and the most noble one. It's really not easy to define friendship. A friend is that person who knows everything about his friend and still likes him or her. A friend is one who scolds you, teaches you, cares for you and LOVE you. I value my friends more than any one I do. A good friend calls you up when he/she gets to know that your one drop of tear has been spilled. A drop of tear that gets spilled from your eyes has great importance if its value is understood otherwise it's nothing but salty water. Yes, I have a friend who cares for me, is concerned about me and even scold me. I came to know about that person when I faced a blow of time again. I think that I wouldn't have got that person as my friend if I had not faced the bad situation. It's proved that even a bad situation can be a boon but in disguise. One is only required to have an eye that can identify good amongst bad. Good and Bad are like two sides of a coin that when tossed in air yields but one result. Friends are really fabulous.

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Life Shows Everything

Life shows everything. It shows love, hatred, happiness and despair. What makes us unhappy? Is it our action, is it one's thought , or is it the action of other makes one fall in the pool of despair? I say all mentioned causes cannot dare to pain you until you allow them to. But, the question still remain unrequited , what makes us unhappy?

But, why am I divulging the stuffs relating to happiness? Well, perhaps something is tiding in my mind causing a chaotic turmoil.

I learned from a Lady that there is great power in the words we say. The way one narrate a word defines his action and its consequence in turn. It really causes a effect- negative or positive. if an old man says "I am still sweet sixteen" then it may seem ridiculous to the listener but the real cream of the narrated line is enjoyed by the speaker, yes, there is a great power in words

Well, "Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our attitude" -- Dale Carnegie


It is well known fact that character cant be changed but attitude changes by the way one thinks and implements. So to be in the state one want to must have his attitude molded a sit is the entity which defines his mental state and his actions.

Well, to write further I would like to mention some lives once said by a great person I know, he said "God manifests in every atom of this universe and will whenever required change the course of things , so when you pray with a powerful concentration and connect with the cosmic vibration you can learn the secrets of universe and use them for the good of the mankind, also you can find answers to thousands of unanswered questions in your mind and heart, the result will be directly proportional to purity of intention in your heart and mind and the intensity of your quest to unravel this force which is beyond comprehension and explanation"

There is a magnetic radiation surrounding every person which is called Aura, and this Aura causes a positive & negative radiations spreading respective impacts.

To move further, I will mention that I have a friend. I don't have any idea about what she thinks of me, what she considers me or how she takes my feelings? But, on my part, she is the one who imparts me a positive energy which keeps me happy for the moment I am with her. "A friend in need is friend indeed" -- this is really proved by her. She assisted me at the time I wanted her help, she listened to me, she gave her effort and tried to make me as I was. I am really obliged to that person.

This is what makes a Friend special and fabulous

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About This Site

This blog encompasses the importance and role of relationship in one's life. It reveals, how a good relationship makes one's life effected in a positive way. Real relationship means to be associated not only via communication, there must be a synchronization of feelings, thoughts and above all there should be a good understanding capability.

We have tried our best to convey to the readers the importance of friendship and its real value.
This site deals with or is about building relationships, art of meeting people, learning from others and how important are friends?..

All of the stuffs mentioned above bear a great meaning and significance in anyone's life. In a nut shell the above mentioned criteria defines the real meaning of being alive. Its really unworthy to live for ourselves, I don't call a life which is meant for itself a real life. Yes, its important to live and enjoy and being a bit self conceited about one's life but to some extent, I mean not at cost of others' happiness.


Life is another name of a long odyssey amidst of many hurdles and sufferance. One who takes it as it comes and remain stuck to what he feels right about is the one who becomes successful. I remember a great quote--

“Just remember, the same as a spectacular Vogue magazine, remember that no matter how close you follow the jumps: Continued on page whatever. No matter how careful you are, there's going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn't experience it all. There's that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should have been paying attention. Well, get used to that feeling. That's how your whole life will feel some day. This is all practice. None of this matters. We're just warming up.”

I hope Our readers will really be enlightened by the articles we post on terms of great relationships and its VALUE

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Friends are Fabulous

Friends are fabulous people. This blog will delve into the many areas of friendship.

My best friends would do anything for me. If I need help, they are right there. If I am crying, they are right there to lend a shoulder. If I am lost, they will look for me and help me find myself again. If I am happy, they will rejoice with me too. I return the love as much as I can.

I have other friends with whom I am not so close. Those friends interact with me socially, but do not share my deepest thoughts and secrets. They are fun to be with. They can make me laugh or cry with their stories, feel good, feel bad, feel excited, feel sad.

Then there are the friends I have never met, yet there is a strong connection. There is a Swedish friend with whom I can share everything, as we understand each other extremely well. There is my American friend who seems to know when I need a laugh and sends it. There is my Australian friend who offers me support just when I am ready to quit. With these friends I have a deep connection that almost seems to come from another source. It is a deep and very meaningful connection. Even when not online for days, we have this connection. Almost like we can sense each other's presence in the world.


Then there are the people we meet everyday, the drug store pharmacist, the grocery clerk, the meter reader, and on and on. A different type of friendship again. Not so close, just a familiarity from seeing often.

Having different relationships with people is the gift that keeps on giving. It is the salt which keeps life interesting. It is the bread on which we feed.

I love making new friends and cultivating relationships with new people. I really love having the special friends who are always there when I need them. I especially love meeting new people every day. How do I do that?

I meet a lot of people on twitter. made a few very good friends and some very good business contacts too.


this is how I keep in touch with them all.
Skype: coach_elouise

I have tons of friends on Facebook, look for coachelouise

I can find old friends I have not seen for a while here:




Coach Elouise

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