What is a perfectly free person?

While sitting in the balcony in a serious and contemplating mood I happened to behold two contrasting events that stole my attention away into an abyss where there were many questions that rattled my mind. I saw a person, weak, shabbily dressed and quite old carrying a heap of wooden scraps on his shoulders. Yes, he was a laborer who was supposed to be paid in return of his work. I failed to conclude whether he was the slave of his need or was the slave of the master or whom he did the work. At the same time, through a opening in the window, I saw a person lost in deep slumber lying comfortably in his room. Now, he was also a slave who enjoyed his slavery…

What is a perfectly free person? Evidently a person who can do whatever he likes, doesn’t do what he don’t like. However, this is quite impossible thing. No one can be so free. No one has ever led his life in such a freedom as some necessities enslave him. A person is always a slave of his necessities for he cannot get rid of himself and is ought to attend to his own demands. Whether we are a monarch or a slave we are the slave of our needs which we cannot shirk off. For half of the day we are busy attending to our whim which gets defined as our comfort… yes, we are the slaves of the comfort that seems too lucrative.

Some necessities have to be fulfilled and they give rise to yet other possibilities. As we have to eat as it lets us survive but before eating we must have food, we need to sleep but before really sleeping we need bed and a room, we need to walk on road and to walk we need clothes to cover our nakedness. Needs always give birth to an action that’s also necessary, thus, we become prisoners to our needs. Now, when food can be earned to feed ourselves, it may also be stolen. When we can employ several laborers to get us clothes and lodging they can also protest being so. Thus, it’s all about keeping one’s hand above in the midst of the war called “I want to be served”. So, I would let you all pondering about this said agenda.

Slavery to nature is quite natural and is completely different from the slavery of a man to man- unnatural. Slavery to nature is always enjoyable and very captivating. While, slavery to a man is really suffocating act that squeezes life out of the slave, at the same time slavery to nature bears a mirth that a slave is not oblivious about.

We need to eat and drink to survive; we would eat and drink a lot if it’s affordable. See, we voluntarily accept this slavery. We need to sleep or we will go mad; we would love to be sleeping always. Aren’t we the slave of the nature who accepts all sort of slavery that nature imposes on us? Whereas, the slavery of a man to another man is quite painful, in fact, no person is that good to be another’s master.

I am leaving this issue of ‘slavery’ in your minds and to contemplate on it further… I have a question, what is better- to work for eight to nine hours a day and get retired at the age of 45 earning the pension, or to work for four hours a day and keep working till one gets perished?

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LOVE or INFATUATION

You meet HIM/HER. You know what I mean, THE ONE.You have been waiting for the person who made your heart pound, made the stars bright, and taken over all reasonable thought processes with ideas of making love on every beach from here to Tahiti.You have a weird expression on your face, food suddenly seems like a mere inconvenience and sleep is just something you used to do. Your friends tease you about being in love. Your mother WARNS you about being in love.

Love is a dynamic process, which means that there is a relationship that flexes, changes and grows as people mature, experience happens upon them, priorities and dreams are built and goals are met. Love brings out the best in people as individuals. The relationship between them becomes the way they define their lives. As jobs, careers, and family concerns change, people are able to work as a team to be understanding and flexible so the relationship (their lives) will flourish.


What if it is infatuation? That's when you think of someone all the time, you go out of your way to be around him/her, and you begin to center your priorities around him/her as well.You daydream about him/her. There is a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.It has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction.Most people are infatuated with their love partners to a certain degree.

What is the difference between love and infatuation? The first difference is that infatuation is short lived. It disappears soon.While infatuation limits your feelings to attraction, love will make you grow in every way and it brings a feeling of comfort when you think of the other person and that feeling will make you stronger as it increases your confidence in yourself to be the person that you want to be.


Maybe infatuation is brain based, and love is heart based?


True love is considered to last a lifetime while infatuation is considered to last only for a few weeks or at the most few months. This difference may actually not be true because a person marries another because of the love shared between them, but after a few years of marriage, they break up because they find that they do not love each other. This does not make their relationship into an infatuation. This is because there was love shared between them, but it is just that the love has soured.

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Walk The Talk

COMMITMENT

HONESTY

RESPECT

COURAGE

RESPECT

&

INTEGRITY


WORDS GOOD WORDS

But they are nothing more than words
unless we actually LIVE BY THEM

Our greatest human challenge ?
to behave according to our beliefs to do right things.
to "practice what we preach."

TO

WALK the TALK

What does it take?

Commitment:

Fight the temptation to compromise your values and beliefs

...It will make you stronger

Honesty:

Build reputation as someone who tells the truth

....It will serve you well

Hold yourself to high standards and continually evaluate the image

you see in

mirror

It will build your character

Respect :

Treat others with dignity and make some behaviors are respectful

...It will make you person of quality

Courage:

Follow your conscience instead of following the crowd

It will make you HEROIC





and

Integrity:

Choose rightness over ease and Convenience

...it will give you pride.... and peace

"I think we all have a little voice inside us that will guide us....
If we shut out all the noise and clutter from our lives and listen to that voice it will tell us the right thing to do"~Christopher Reeve

Believe that the walk matters

because it does!


Believe you can make difference

because you can !


You have a choice
start each day with a commitment to do what is right



Remember.... With every sunrise comes new opportunities.


Today you have a clean slate upon which to record your life... and your legacy.


Seek the courage to do the right thing


Decide that this will be a day in which you....


WALK the TALK

Decide.....

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Happiness lies Within

Happiness needs not be brought about by any reason. It lies within us, only one is required to dig it out. Happiness once achieved does not only affects people surrounding the achiever but it also somehow subconsciously effects its bearer to great extent. Celebrations, festivals, parties and ceremonies are nothing but a pretext of having happiness for a short interval of time. Yes, I believe that a minute's mirth shades off grief of years. Happiness and grief are paradox but inductive in nature. It is a well known idea that one should pass his time with some happy people and not with the people who are swimming in the pool of despair, perhaps caused by their action or thinking. The only reason behind it is that both, happiness and grief are inductive and gets easily infused to the people in the company of their bearer. I believe it and do support it. However, if this fact is well accepted by every people then the time is not far that there will be a creation of two categories of people, sad and happy. If so happens then where this sad people will go and and whom these happy people make happy. I was just pondering over it... If all the happy people make a resolution and then make an earnest effort to make all the sad people to be like them then will not be the world marked by the idea of mutual cooperation, compassion and relationships.

I am from India as many of you all know, India is a country of diversity where different kind of people dwell having different cultures. Few countries in the world have such an ancient and diverse culture as India’s. For the majority of Indians, religion takes over every aspect of life, from commonplace daily chores to education and politics. In India there are many festivals which are celebrated. HOLI is one of the most enjoyable festivals celebrated in India. Holi is a festival of colors. It is a festival that ensures freedom to everyone who plays it. Woman especially in India enjoy a degree of freedom during the festival which is not otherwise available to them routinely.




Today I played Holi with my friends.


It was really a great fun. The importance of festivals is well understood by me now. To me it had been a greatest fun I had ever had. I am sure you can wonder why I talked about happiness above. I was just trying to exaggerate on the idea of being happy after having found a way to do so. It was really a moment when I enjoyed like anything. I ran, laughed, played pranks, titillated friends and even cracked jokes to make everything possible that may make the moment great.

So, I think is HOLI made for me to be happy, or in another way round is it necessary to fix a date when one can remain happy?.. I say, NO... can't we make every moment joyous. A great man said "you are the product of your thinking". Truly he is not wrong. There is a mental block in most of us that we can't be happy if there is no reason to be. Happiness should be incorporated in every action. If a person is not happy while donating fund to a charity then what's the use of it to him, If someone is not happy after stealing then it can never help him as this action of his was perhaps under compulsion. This was all I thought about shortly.

Before really stopping to write I would like to have the readers go through the quotes below by some great men.

• Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be- Abraham Lincoln
• You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life - Albert Camus
• Happiness comes when your work and words are of benefit to yourself and others- Buddha

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Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

I always loved to listen to this song as a young teacher in Kamloops. It was a favorite and still is. But. To the question: Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

Because the Now may be all I have.

Living in the past stagnates us. We cannot live in the past as if the things that have already happened will happen over and over. Why revisit all the hurts and deceptions? Why revisit the bad times? Then again, we have had good times too. So, why not revisit them? It is good to remember them, but we cannot relive them. Embrace the good memories and enjoy the good feelings they bring back. But don't live there either.

Just think about the things happening in our lives now. So much excitement, so much progress. If we stay in the past, then what are we gaining from Now? Nothing. There is so much out there to experience, make new memories with and have a wonderful time living and learning.

So what's wrong with living in the future? Apart from the fact that if it has not yet happened, it may never happen. We can look ahead to the future. I am not saying that we cannot have one. Far from it! We will all have a future. What it will be we will know when it becomes the Now! Sure, we make plans. Sure, we decide what we want from life and make all sorts of decisions on how we are getting there. Now is when we are making all these choices and decisions. Not in the Future. We live Now. We have a vision for our future. We make plans on how to get there. We make the decisions and choices Now that will get us to our future. Live in the Now with vision. Live in the Now with enjoyment. Live in the Now for life!

The deeper reason for me is actually somewhat traumatic. My family doctor confirmed that I have early onset dementia. It is a result of the same medical issue that has been the cause behind my heart troubles too. My vein and artery walls are weak. They collapse and sometimes stick shut. When that happens around my heart, I get angina pain or a heart attack. When that happens in my brain, I lose a little bit of myself. That is what is making it so much more important to live in the NOW.

I am missing some memories. Nothing really important as far as I can remember. But I know the others might go sometime too. There is no good reason to remain living in my past watching the memories maybe disappear, maybe change as the old pathways in my brain start to shut down.

I would rather enjoy what is left of my time here in this life. So, ... I live in the Now. Making new pathways in my brain by learning new things. Making new memories in different sections of my brain. Using creativity skills that I did not know I had to beautify my surroundings. Not giving in to living in the past or trying to live in a future that is not yet here. I will enjoy my grandchildren as much as possible Now. I am taking lots of pictures for NOW. I am not dwelling on what could happen tomorrow. Living in the NOW makes life fun again. I love life in the Now. Enjoy it with me.

When you are troubled, that is when you really need your friends and family. I have mine. It amazes me more everyday how my friends accept me today for who I am Now. Not who I was 10 years ago. Not who I might be 10 years into my future. NOW.

Living and loving life

Elouise

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What is Love?

So. The questions we all ask ourselves. What is Love? How do we know it is Love? will Love live forever? ...

No one person can answer all of those. But if we look within, we find what Love is for us. I have been thinking on this topic for a while now. How can one come to grips with it all? There are so many facets; it is like a very large diamond. Or maybe a million smaller ones. Where do I start?

I start with the love I married over 40 years ago. That was special at the start. It has changed over the years, but not by becoming bad, just by becoming different. I would not trade those 40 years for anything else. I have 3 beautiful children because of that love. I have 2 grandchildren (so far) because of that precious love. I am settled in that love. I am in love with love.

Soulmates. Recently I met a soulmate. That Love is different. It has a passion unlike any other I have ever felt. It has intertwinings of thoughts that do not exist anywhere else. I don't know how many soulmates we can find in this vast world of ours, but, for me, one great soul mate is all I need. We fulfil each other in ways no one else can. We understand each others feelings with a depth no one else has. We understand our moods, our thoughts in harmony. We can feel what each other is feeling without even being in the same country. There are no bounds. Everyone needs a soulmate. I am extremely happy that I found mine.

Then there is Love we, as parents, have for our children. We find we want to protect them, help them to avoid the same pitfalls of life that we have ourselves fallen into. We want them to be happier than we were through all the different stages of our lives. We want only the best for them. We want to protect them. We want to stop anyone else from hurting them. We want to fight all their battles to save them from harm. We know, deep down, that we cannot do it all for them. We have to allow them to try, to get hurt, to laugh, to meet people, to attempt their own lives. They have to learn to live, to love and to be happy on their own. We can always be there when they need us. But above all else, Love can not be used to smother! That is the most important lesson that parents can learn. And the hardest too.

Then we have special friends. Yes, I love many people, in many different ways. My special friends are the ones that I can lean on. They are the ones I can say anything to without fear of being ridiculed. They are not afraid to hurt my feelings by telling me the truth. But they know how to cushion it so I can learn from what they say. They will not order me to do things I feel are not right. They will offer great suggestions when I reach a crossroads and don't know where to turn. They are the ones I can laugh with and cry with. They hold me up when I can't, but they let me down gently when it is time to go on my own. They are my greatest support.

So. Are there any more kinds of Love? Yes. Each friend we meet, each person we wrong, everyone who touches our lives we love in some way. It does not always feel like love, but if we are taking the time to interact with them, then there is a type of love there. We all have within ourselves the ability to love. It is ours to use and to spread. We have a need to use this love. The more we do so, the better our lives get. I am not saying bad things don't happen. What I am saying is when bad things happen the Love of our families, our special friends, even our acquaintances helps us to overcome.

To me, Love is a many faceted jewel. One that will shine on forever, no matter what happens. Full of different colours! Lights up our lives and makes it more lovable. Where would we be without love? I don't know. And I don't want to find out.

Let the rainbows shine on forever!

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Friendship : A Great Relationship

sometimes you get more than what you really expect and sometimes it happens that you don't get what you deserve. Why it so happens? Is it a law that is proved maximum time in one's life. Every situation in life, good or bad, has its own blessings. Sometimes blessings are in disguise that our innocent heart fail to recognize. Once upon a time a person told me that happiness and grief are a matter of time. If it's so then should we wait for the time to arrive expecting a bucketful of treasure or should we replace expectations with preference? I throw this question to you all.

I have crossed a great time in life. I have gathered experiences that perhaps is centralized to a common base of misery. I wonder because I seem to be doing mastery in being a misery-king. I have come to know that sometimes the return of a blow is given by actions that can overpower it. yes, actions are louder...


Love is the most confident, stable and consistent form of human emotion if it's in its real form. Love is that impulse that encourages sacrifice, the greatest act a human can perform. The emotion that doesn't beget sacrifice is surely not a LOVE but an obsession or a manacle that binds one to groan in the dust of misery. LUST is the assassin of LOVE that infuses the negative emotions sufficient to pollute the chastity of love. There runs a famous line--"Forgive to forget " it is really self explanatory. But, what I think is that one must really forgive himself to forget the things that he is naturally deprived of. Love really makes a lover miss himself more than his/her beloved one when they are apart. The time when they are together the happiness is nothing but a perfect bliss which prevails unnoticed. LOVE is one of the integral aspect of emotions that refills one with positivity.

LOVE has its forms that is really marvellous. LOVE exists between a couple who are tied together with a divine bond, LOVE exists between all form of relationship that breeds happiness, satisfaction and cooperation. Among all the form of relation in which LOVE play its important role, the relationship of friendship bears the most credible bond. The relationship of friendship is versatile and the most noble one. It's really not easy to define friendship. A friend is that person who knows everything about his friend and still likes him or her. A friend is one who scolds you, teaches you, cares for you and LOVE you. I value my friends more than any one I do. A good friend calls you up when he/she gets to know that your one drop of tear has been spilled. A drop of tear that gets spilled from your eyes has great importance if its value is understood otherwise it's nothing but salty water. Yes, I have a friend who cares for me, is concerned about me and even scold me. I came to know about that person when I faced a blow of time again. I think that I wouldn't have got that person as my friend if I had not faced the bad situation. It's proved that even a bad situation can be a boon but in disguise. One is only required to have an eye that can identify good amongst bad. Good and Bad are like two sides of a coin that when tossed in air yields but one result. Friends are really fabulous.

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Reply to Entertainment.

I agree with the premise that entertainment can be used as a tool to impart knowledge, or propaganda. I wonder sometimes though if we humans have a tendency to read far too much into the twists and plots of a movie.

We watch a movie and then stop to think about the scenes and what they might mean. Like Anand did in his blog post. The post is a good one and makes the movie seem much more important than it was set up to be. While I mostly agree with the points brought up, I have some difficulty with a couple of them.

Never try to be successful is one I have difficulty with. You failed to define success. I am sure we could come up with several definitions of success. For example, would you classify success as having the largest house in town?, Or could it be the bank account with the most money?, Or, could it be as simple as having helped the most people in some way?. Or is it just having enough to live the kind of life you want? For me, success can be defined as accomplishing something that is important to me. Like the book I am writing detailing my family tree. When that project is complete, then I will be successful. It won't make me famous, it won't make me rich, it won't even affect more than a few hundred people, but it will be the largest project that I have completed.

Anand, you say strive for excellence and success will follow. I am striving for a very excellent book. My concern is that if I keep trying for perfection, the book may never be completed! In that case, I would not consider myself successful at all.

I like to live life to the fullest. Although I am fearful of new experiences and new things, I do not avoid them, but carry on searching for more knowledge. I love to learn. I consider myself to be a life long learner. That will only change when I leave this life. This week I am learning about enlightenment. I am adding exercise to my daily routine to improve my health. I am seeking new ideas all the time for improving my health. Some work, some don't. It is part of your life experience to learn what you can and apply the knowledge in a way that helps not only you, but others around you too. Selfishness is not an option.

I have limited faith in the leadership of industry. Money is what makes industry work. I prefer to barter when I can and share. I send my homemade jams out and receive a lot of love and advice back. I love to make the jams and jellies. I make way more than my family can eat, but I don't sell them. I trade them. I get vegetables, meals, other fruits to make more with, companionship, treats, rides to places I need to go, advice, love and appreciation.

I love life. I live to love. I live to be happy by doing what I love to do. Life is really wonderful.

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Compassion: Way To Happiness

Before really delving into the thoughts dealing with today's agenda I would start off with the idea of being happy. Happiness is nothing but is a state of mind as worries are. Both dwell in us feeding on the thoughts we tame . Yes, thoughts are the key factor which make us the way they emerge in us. I believe that our brain is far more powerful than a TV transmitter which is capable of interacting with microwaves. By this connotation I mean to say that one's mental status is greatly judged by the way one thinks.

Death is one of the chief reasons that make people unhappy through a process of "fear". Many people live life in a fear of being killed or losing their lives. Well, according to elementary physics whole universe is made up of matter and energy which can't be destroyed or created. Transition from one state of matter to another take place. Life is a form of energy, if it is anything. Since energy or matter can't be destroyed then ofcourse life cannot be destroyed. Death is just a process which encompasses procedure of transition of life to another form- death. So, I think its not a thing to worry about. One cannot change the course of nature and it can be done then it indeed awaits calamity..

Of late I was enlightened on the term COMPASSION. What is it really? The answer is that it's nothing but A deep awareness of and sympathy for another's suffering. Does it brings about happiness to others, or it brings happiness to oneself? This is a question which may echo. Compassion is a way to the destination of the journey of life which employs itself in finding HAPPINESS. Yes, happiness is the effect of true and real compassion.

Compassion are of two types, biased compassion and unbiased compassion with former having its seeds sowed in us from the day we are born. Perhaps, the first preaching in our life is COMPASSION which we learn from the person who bear us in her womb. It's a natural compassion and is biased one, but it alone doesn't suffice the existence of real compassion. COMPASSION is not complete until its unbiased. Elephant is declared as one of the most compassionate living being on this earth.

Millions and trillions of money doesn't quench the thirst of a person on his death bed. The only thing what comes to his rescue is the contenment from the deeds he did when he was alive. Satisfaction also comes with its comrades ready to his rescue. Well, I think you must be thinking the about the sense which is being projected by being rescued. Its not regaining the life, its embracement of death in most gracious way..

In a concluding note I would like to emphasis on the act of being compassionate. It's a certain way to happiness and success which comes to deserving people. A idea struck my mind that one should not owe much from this world as it came before you did....

Be happy my friends as this is the way to intervene the divine power..

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We are here for a reason.

Having a happy life is easier than you might think. I have made the decision after listening to the Dali Lama that it is up to me to have a happy life. So How do I do that? I have been thinking on it and trying some new things to see what works.

First, I discussed this with my family. All of them agreed that looking outside myself for happiness is not the way to go. Happiness is always inside you. You can be in very happy situations and surrounded by very happy people and still not feel happy within yourself. Only you can change what you feel inside yourself.

Secondly, I spoke with my friends about this. For the past few weeks, the topic has come up in many conversations. The final conclusion does not change though. We have all come to an agreement. Happiness is something you can control. How is up to each person and situation, but it is under your own control. Where do I go from here?

I have been looking at my own thought patterns. What thoughts come to my mind and how I treat them. Upon realizing that not all my thoughts are positive in outlook, actually many are quite negative, it has become important to me and my happiness to learn to control them. It is much more difficult that I expected. I suppose the habits of 62 years of life on this earth in this lifetime has ingrained some negative ideas firmly enough to make them difficult to remove. Now comes the work.

Fortunately, I have some great friends who are helping me to learn this. I have found great resources here for learning. Check out this site! The amount of knowledge to be found there is huge!

Wolfpac1

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I Can't Believe What I Believe

All of us know that we should not believe anything that cannot be proved with sufficient evidence. But i tend to believe a lieing friend more than the honest stranger WHY? When something bad happens say for instance I have a small accident, I believe that I was lucky to have escaped with a minor injury and averted from a major mishap. WHY?

People have a strong tendency to believe what they want to believe even though the consequences of their beliefs may be quite harmful to them. George Santayana once said:
Most people would rather die than think -- in fact, they do.

I think that We usually have an emotional attachment to our beliefs. They are part of self-identification., so we try to preserve them.

There is a strong belief among many Indians that death occurs if a lizard falls on the head. To avoid the death he has two options; one is touching the idol of gold and silver
lizard in Kanchipuram, Tamil Nadu, and another is to touch the person who has touched the
idols of lizards.

I am sure we all have some strange beliefs and practices or habits, but why are we unable to overcome them?

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Life Shows Everything

Life shows everything. It shows love, hatred, happiness and despair. What makes us unhappy? Is it our action, is it one's thought , or is it the action of other makes one fall in the pool of despair? I say all mentioned causes cannot dare to pain you until you allow them to. But, the question still remain unrequited , what makes us unhappy?

But, why am I divulging the stuffs relating to happiness? Well, perhaps something is tiding in my mind causing a chaotic turmoil.

I learned from a Lady that there is great power in the words we say. The way one narrate a word defines his action and its consequence in turn. It really causes a effect- negative or positive. if an old man says "I am still sweet sixteen" then it may seem ridiculous to the listener but the real cream of the narrated line is enjoyed by the speaker, yes, there is a great power in words

Well, "Happiness doesn't depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our attitude" -- Dale Carnegie


It is well known fact that character cant be changed but attitude changes by the way one thinks and implements. So to be in the state one want to must have his attitude molded a sit is the entity which defines his mental state and his actions.

Well, to write further I would like to mention some lives once said by a great person I know, he said "God manifests in every atom of this universe and will whenever required change the course of things , so when you pray with a powerful concentration and connect with the cosmic vibration you can learn the secrets of universe and use them for the good of the mankind, also you can find answers to thousands of unanswered questions in your mind and heart, the result will be directly proportional to purity of intention in your heart and mind and the intensity of your quest to unravel this force which is beyond comprehension and explanation"

There is a magnetic radiation surrounding every person which is called Aura, and this Aura causes a positive & negative radiations spreading respective impacts.

To move further, I will mention that I have a friend. I don't have any idea about what she thinks of me, what she considers me or how she takes my feelings? But, on my part, she is the one who imparts me a positive energy which keeps me happy for the moment I am with her. "A friend in need is friend indeed" -- this is really proved by her. She assisted me at the time I wanted her help, she listened to me, she gave her effort and tried to make me as I was. I am really obliged to that person.

This is what makes a Friend special and fabulous

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About This Site

This blog encompasses the importance and role of relationship in one's life. It reveals, how a good relationship makes one's life effected in a positive way. Real relationship means to be associated not only via communication, there must be a synchronization of feelings, thoughts and above all there should be a good understanding capability.

We have tried our best to convey to the readers the importance of friendship and its real value.
This site deals with or is about building relationships, art of meeting people, learning from others and how important are friends?..

All of the stuffs mentioned above bear a great meaning and significance in anyone's life. In a nut shell the above mentioned criteria defines the real meaning of being alive. Its really unworthy to live for ourselves, I don't call a life which is meant for itself a real life. Yes, its important to live and enjoy and being a bit self conceited about one's life but to some extent, I mean not at cost of others' happiness.


Life is another name of a long odyssey amidst of many hurdles and sufferance. One who takes it as it comes and remain stuck to what he feels right about is the one who becomes successful. I remember a great quote--

“Just remember, the same as a spectacular Vogue magazine, remember that no matter how close you follow the jumps: Continued on page whatever. No matter how careful you are, there's going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn't experience it all. There's that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should have been paying attention. Well, get used to that feeling. That's how your whole life will feel some day. This is all practice. None of this matters. We're just warming up.”

I hope Our readers will really be enlightened by the articles we post on terms of great relationships and its VALUE

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Friends are Fabulous

Friends are fabulous people. This blog will delve into the many areas of friendship.

My best friends would do anything for me. If I need help, they are right there. If I am crying, they are right there to lend a shoulder. If I am lost, they will look for me and help me find myself again. If I am happy, they will rejoice with me too. I return the love as much as I can.

I have other friends with whom I am not so close. Those friends interact with me socially, but do not share my deepest thoughts and secrets. They are fun to be with. They can make me laugh or cry with their stories, feel good, feel bad, feel excited, feel sad.

Then there are the friends I have never met, yet there is a strong connection. There is a Swedish friend with whom I can share everything, as we understand each other extremely well. There is my American friend who seems to know when I need a laugh and sends it. There is my Australian friend who offers me support just when I am ready to quit. With these friends I have a deep connection that almost seems to come from another source. It is a deep and very meaningful connection. Even when not online for days, we have this connection. Almost like we can sense each other's presence in the world.


Then there are the people we meet everyday, the drug store pharmacist, the grocery clerk, the meter reader, and on and on. A different type of friendship again. Not so close, just a familiarity from seeing often.

Having different relationships with people is the gift that keeps on giving. It is the salt which keeps life interesting. It is the bread on which we feed.

I love making new friends and cultivating relationships with new people. I really love having the special friends who are always there when I need them. I especially love meeting new people every day. How do I do that?

I meet a lot of people on twitter. made a few very good friends and some very good business contacts too.


this is how I keep in touch with them all.
Skype: coach_elouise

I have tons of friends on Facebook, look for coachelouise

I can find old friends I have not seen for a while here:




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