Love or fear?

When you start loving someone a sense of profound feeling prevails in your conscience. The feeling of love which may be with living or non-living thing has, probably, lots of positive effects that overturn the negativity. However, with a great happiness love carries with it an acute fear. The fear is of loosing the beloved. The fear obscures the mirth that is imparted by LOVE. Fear, but gets breed on the ground of lack of reliability and owing to existence of insecurity in a relationship.

When someone gets struck by any virtual but intense set of emotions, no
matter for a small duration, he feels alone and seeks peace having a fact in mind that even the most intense feelings are prone to taper off in due course... The best feature possibly that the human brain possess is forgetfulness. Many mishaps, mental distractions and accidents take place now and then, if we were to keep everything in mind then perhaps we would have been shedding off our tears until we were dead. I mentioned that fear always companies LOVE, but if it’s so then should we always give way to fear, Should love be obscured each time? Perhaps, the answer would possibly be “NO”..! If love is real and true then fear and other negative emotions can’t take over it.

If some person tells that , “ I can’t live without you..”. Is this really true, can a person die if he doesn’t get someone to live with. I say, if this happen then may be the person is diseased. A great person told that a man is the product of his thinking. One becomes the way he thinks. A innocent child who needs toys to play, mother’s compassion and good preaching can be molded in such a way that he tends to ignore the things what he actually needs most. They become Terrorists if they feed on fear, their thinking is given an evil shape.

Love, Fear, Anger, jealousy etc are all the outcomes of thinking and situation. LOVE is quite elusive where negative emotions are quite prominent and easily sneak up on any body who proves himself to be weak…

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Fear of Death

Among all of the basic fears that a human being possess the fear of DEATH is cruelest. It is quite obvious to have this fear as we can't expect anything after death. We don't know where or what we will be after death. However, DEATH is inevitable. I was enlightened on this agenda of late that I would like to share with you all and expect my effort to be proved fruitful.

The fear of DEATH in today's world is not as common as it was in the ages when there were no colleges and universities. Through the aid of biology, astronomy and other branch of science the fear of unknown that gripped the mind of mass capable of destroying their reason has been dispelled. Many beliefs that constrained human thoughts from getting wings are perished through the enlightenment of education.

So far as death is concerned, it is inevitable. It is a acceptable fact that death will come, and it's better not to be afraid of it.

According to Elementary Physics the whole Universe is made up of Energy and Matter, and they can't either be created or destroyed but can be transformed.
If Life is anything, then it's energy. When we are alive we undergo many processes that explains the transformation of life-energy from one form to another. Life can only be made to undergo various transitions, can't be put to an end. Death is mere Transition.

If Death was not mere a Transition, then what comes after death? After death comes a long undisturbed sleep having a eternal value. So, why should we be afraid of peace. Rather, a man spends his whole life in the quest of PEACE.

Well, I think you must have, a bit, overcome the fear of being 'perished' after going through the aforesaid article. I hope a open discussion on it for further enlightenment.

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Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

I always loved to listen to this song as a young teacher in Kamloops. It was a favorite and still is. But. To the question: Why Would I want to Live in the Now?

Because the Now may be all I have.

Living in the past stagnates us. We cannot live in the past as if the things that have already happened will happen over and over. Why revisit all the hurts and deceptions? Why revisit the bad times? Then again, we have had good times too. So, why not revisit them? It is good to remember them, but we cannot relive them. Embrace the good memories and enjoy the good feelings they bring back. But don't live there either.

Just think about the things happening in our lives now. So much excitement, so much progress. If we stay in the past, then what are we gaining from Now? Nothing. There is so much out there to experience, make new memories with and have a wonderful time living and learning.

So what's wrong with living in the future? Apart from the fact that if it has not yet happened, it may never happen. We can look ahead to the future. I am not saying that we cannot have one. Far from it! We will all have a future. What it will be we will know when it becomes the Now! Sure, we make plans. Sure, we decide what we want from life and make all sorts of decisions on how we are getting there. Now is when we are making all these choices and decisions. Not in the Future. We live Now. We have a vision for our future. We make plans on how to get there. We make the decisions and choices Now that will get us to our future. Live in the Now with vision. Live in the Now with enjoyment. Live in the Now for life!

The deeper reason for me is actually somewhat traumatic. My family doctor confirmed that I have early onset dementia. It is a result of the same medical issue that has been the cause behind my heart troubles too. My vein and artery walls are weak. They collapse and sometimes stick shut. When that happens around my heart, I get angina pain or a heart attack. When that happens in my brain, I lose a little bit of myself. That is what is making it so much more important to live in the NOW.

I am missing some memories. Nothing really important as far as I can remember. But I know the others might go sometime too. There is no good reason to remain living in my past watching the memories maybe disappear, maybe change as the old pathways in my brain start to shut down.

I would rather enjoy what is left of my time here in this life. So, ... I live in the Now. Making new pathways in my brain by learning new things. Making new memories in different sections of my brain. Using creativity skills that I did not know I had to beautify my surroundings. Not giving in to living in the past or trying to live in a future that is not yet here. I will enjoy my grandchildren as much as possible Now. I am taking lots of pictures for NOW. I am not dwelling on what could happen tomorrow. Living in the NOW makes life fun again. I love life in the Now. Enjoy it with me.

When you are troubled, that is when you really need your friends and family. I have mine. It amazes me more everyday how my friends accept me today for who I am Now. Not who I was 10 years ago. Not who I might be 10 years into my future. NOW.

Living and loving life

Elouise

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Unethical About Ethics

Ethics is defined as the moral principles one possess. The principles, the morality and inner wisdom that specifies the approach to life is what we call component of ethics. The basic attitude towards one's profession, reaction and behavior is well capable of deciding the consequence one can face at the fag end of his professional life.

A child afraid of darkness is probably wiser than a man afraid of light. Here is there a element of fear that resides in everyone. If a person claims to be brave then he too has the element of fear -- the fear of not being afraid. One can wonder that how fear is related with ethical values? In my opinion the element of fear is one of the integral part of a person. A person refrains from doing wrong only if he is afraid of the consequences. Here it can be laid emphasis on the existence of fear that restores ethical values that is entirely responsible for a person's being different from beasts.


There is a shear and bare exhibition of law that some times results to be brutal in courts, the so called place of lawful people. Is punishing somebody a ethical act? If yes, then what is ethical about this act, and if no then how a convict should be treated? Ethics is not a law, not a rule or not a premise that constraints one's act, it's all about the value that lets its bearer to be within the fence of values that count.

CAPITAL PUNISHMENT... Does not the phrase itself dread even a beast? Is it really a ethical act for a person, probably who is not ethical to sound capital punishment? who is more ethical, the judge who echoed the capital punishment or the convict who accepts the punishment because he had no other punishment because he had no other option to opt. I really wonder about it and feel that we are probably the innocent pawn who move according to the orders, which is probably sometimes unethical.


Ethics are perhaps set of unethical values that probably says absorb me to be apparently ethical !!!These are the ideas that crept into me when I had lent my patient but restless ear to pre-programmed chirping LADIES...

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Fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.

I think the title is self explanatory. We live all our life in one form or the other of this fear. A few years ago during a casual discussion with a professor in sociology I was asked to define FEAR. I was not able to define it, then I was asked to define FAITH. Again I found it very difficult. The professor explained that FEAR is something unknown that takes over your feeling and FAITH also is something unknown that takes over your feeling. Both Fear and Faith are feelings and opposite to each other.

Both these are unknown and grow with the help of your imagination or creativity. If you feed your Faith then your Fears starve and vice versa. Fear cripples our thinking and damages our personality. It makes us inferior. Fear is such a powerful feeling that it has been classified into so many types like phobias, Fear of Speaking, Fear of Writing, Fear of Crime etc. Though we all talk so much about positive thinking, we are unable to get rid of Fear why?


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? Our lives are controlled by the fear of failure.Trial and error are usually the prime means of solving life’s problems. Yet many people are afraid to undertake the trial because they’re too afraid of experiencing the error. They make the mistake of believing that all error is wrong and harmful, when most of it is both helpful and necessary.


Success and Failure are two sides of a coin and are required in a balanced way for a person to grow for better.A little selfishness is valuable even in the most caring person. And a little failure is essential to preserve everyone’s perspective on success.We talk a lot about being positive. Maybe we also need to recognize that the negative parts of our lives and experience are just as important a play a very important role in finding success, both in our work and life.




We must develop our faith which will make things possible but not necessarily easy.As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will.


Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark or the man afraid of the light? ~Maurice Freehill

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Story Of an Eagle

The eagle gently coaxed her
offspring toward the edge of the nest

Her heart quivered with conflicting emotions
as she felt their resistance to
her persistent nudging.

“Why does the thrill of soaring have to begin
with the fear of falling?” she thought.

This ageless question was still
unanswered for her.

As in tradition of the species, her nest was located high on the shelf of a
sheer rock face.

Below there was nothing but air to support the wings
of each child.


“Is it possible that this time it will not work?”
she
thought.

Despite her fears, the eagle knew it was time,
her parental
mission was all but complete.


There remained one final task –
THE
PUSH

The eagle drew courage from an innate wisdom.
Until her children
discovered their wings,
there was no purpose for their lives
Until they learned to soar,
they would fail to understand the
privilege it was to have been born an eagle


The push was the greatest
gift she had to offer. It was her supreme act of love.


And so, one by
one, she pushed them and they flew



We must remember that success begins when we understand that life is
about growing; it is about acquiring the knowledge and skills we need to
live more fully and effectively.

Inspired by ST

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Compassion: Way To Happiness

Before really delving into the thoughts dealing with today's agenda I would start off with the idea of being happy. Happiness is nothing but is a state of mind as worries are. Both dwell in us feeding on the thoughts we tame . Yes, thoughts are the key factor which make us the way they emerge in us. I believe that our brain is far more powerful than a TV transmitter which is capable of interacting with microwaves. By this connotation I mean to say that one's mental status is greatly judged by the way one thinks.

Death is one of the chief reasons that make people unhappy through a process of "fear". Many people live life in a fear of being killed or losing their lives. Well, according to elementary physics whole universe is made up of matter and energy which can't be destroyed or created. Transition from one state of matter to another take place. Life is a form of energy, if it is anything. Since energy or matter can't be destroyed then ofcourse life cannot be destroyed. Death is just a process which encompasses procedure of transition of life to another form- death. So, I think its not a thing to worry about. One cannot change the course of nature and it can be done then it indeed awaits calamity..

Of late I was enlightened on the term COMPASSION. What is it really? The answer is that it's nothing but A deep awareness of and sympathy for another's suffering. Does it brings about happiness to others, or it brings happiness to oneself? This is a question which may echo. Compassion is a way to the destination of the journey of life which employs itself in finding HAPPINESS. Yes, happiness is the effect of true and real compassion.

Compassion are of two types, biased compassion and unbiased compassion with former having its seeds sowed in us from the day we are born. Perhaps, the first preaching in our life is COMPASSION which we learn from the person who bear us in her womb. It's a natural compassion and is biased one, but it alone doesn't suffice the existence of real compassion. COMPASSION is not complete until its unbiased. Elephant is declared as one of the most compassionate living being on this earth.

Millions and trillions of money doesn't quench the thirst of a person on his death bed. The only thing what comes to his rescue is the contenment from the deeds he did when he was alive. Satisfaction also comes with its comrades ready to his rescue. Well, I think you must be thinking the about the sense which is being projected by being rescued. Its not regaining the life, its embracement of death in most gracious way..

In a concluding note I would like to emphasis on the act of being compassionate. It's a certain way to happiness and success which comes to deserving people. A idea struck my mind that one should not owe much from this world as it came before you did....

Be happy my friends as this is the way to intervene the divine power..

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